Jayam Ravi

This is a fun column, a friendly exchange between you and your favourite stars. If you feel like opening out your heart to someone, Jayam Ravi, the latest heart throb of Kollywood, is willing to lend you a helping hand. He has won many a heart with his quiet charm and debonair looks. And yet he has a very balanced head on his shoulders. You can ask anything under the sun… but this column is meant only for the teens…ADULT ALERT!!!!

I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for two years now. Earlier things were fine between us but of late, he has become extremely possessive and demanding. He doesn’t like my interacting with other guys and he does not want me to wear modern clothes. He wants me to wear only salwars. He is curbing my freedom. I am an outgoing girl and I can’t stand this. We fight a lot but I love him and don’t want to break up with him. What do I do?

Be lucky to have a possessive boy friend because he is extremely concerned; that is why he is possessive. Only people who are concerned about you are possessive.  If you feel he is going over board, take him to places where he can see how other youngsters interact. He will understand if you explain this is how it is. He will be okay with it. If you don’t want to break this is the only way to make him understand.

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Simbu

This is a fun column, a friendly exchange between you and your favourite stars. If you feel like opening out your heart to someone, suave and smart Simbu, a role model of a determined achiever  who is on the way to become a one-man industry   is willing to lend you a helping hand. You can ask her anything under the sun… but this column is meant only for the teens…ADULT ALERT!!!!

I am a sixteen-year-old girl studying in school. All my friends have boyfriends, but I don’t. I feel very left out. I am very tomboyish and rather rough and even though I am good-looking, I don’t really give importance to my looks. My friends say that guys dig only pretty, glamorous-looking girls, and that I am too un-feminine and an intimidating figure. Is that true? Do guys only go for girls who are pretty and glamorous? What is it that a guy really looks for in a girl?

Firstly, I should tell you, be happy that you have escaped the clutches of a relationship and you don’t have a boyfriend. It is not that guys only dig glamorous girls.  It’s true—looks to matter to a general extent, but after that, it’s the character that counts. Moreover,it’s the compatibility and synchronicity between the two, that matters. Guys have different tastes, but they generally go for girls of their wavelength in maturity and intelligence. When you’re looking at such a broad spectrum, looks hardly matter. On the other hand, it is the charm you exude and the way you carry yourself, which actually matters. As for you, I feel that you shouldn’t change yourself for any guy. You will soon find a guy who is attracted to you the way you are. After all, you are just sixteen, and you have a long way to go. But I must correct this misconception most girls have—guys don’t dig only beautiful or glamorous girls. There is more to it than that.